You know that girl that is sitting in the back of the class, all alone with glasses and braces and all she wants is to have a friend that likes her and
accepts her for who she is? That was ME!
I was bullied all through elementary school, leading into middle school. I was made fun of, felt like I was not worth anything, and the worst feeling, that no one liked me. They even took the time to come up with a name for me, as I had gotten a cut on my forehead from hitting it on a coffee table. They called me “Hilaroa Bull Frog Potter Head.” That is where it all started. It was that feeling of never feeling good enough, like a loser, like I was nothing. I have kept this with me ever since. It still hurts thinking about it.
The people who are doing it say that they are just “having fun”, that “it’s a joke” – it’s not! It’s not funny!! It is BULLYING!!
This is the kind of effect bullying can have on someone. The memory of what they said or what they did and how those people made you feel stays with you for life. You can’t put people down to make yourself feel better. It’s not RIGHT!
In my view, this is a very serious issue that is close to my heart. It is something that seriously affected my self esteem and my school experience. It got so bad that I didn’t want to go to that school – I wanted to change schools! It’s something we all have to come together to change. I don’t support it NOT ONE BIT!
The thing these bullies don’t realize is that it’s not only what they say or do can hurt, it can literally kill. According to the bullying statistics
of the CDC, suicide is the third leading cause of death among young people, resulting in about 4,400 deaths per year. For every suicide among young people, there are at least 100 suicide attempts. Over 14 % of high school students have considered suicide and almost 7 percent have attempted it all caused by bullying. These bullies are literally shredding every ounce of a person until they have nothing left. They are killing the self worth of others, layer by layer. Bullying can lead to signs of depression,self harm, substance abuse, anxiety etc.
I am the girl that now has to deal with on-going depression. I have dealt with this issue for a very long time because of bullying as well as other
things. However I am extremely proud today to say that I have gotten help for my depression and am extremely stable. I am talking to a counsellor on a regular basis and also taking medication. With the crazy life I live, these steps have helped me so much! At first I was extremely scared to let you all know this, but because it has helped me so much I wanted to share it with all of you. To me it was just something else that made me weird or different, but that’s not what it’s about. It’s about accepting that I have a problem, knowing that, getting help and moving forward with myself as a first step – and now, being brave enough to talk about it to try to help all of YOU!
With Love, Hilary xoxo